to our beloved tiny

Tiny had been with us for 3 months. She's a shihtzu-maltese with an attitude that of a child. We used to call her Blossoms. She grew to become a tiny mischief, hence Tiny. She is in dog heaven right now. That's for sure. And maybe she already met her grandfather Max (where she took most of her characteristics, no doubt Max will recognize her).

She died 10:43 this morning of Parvo complication. It's a killer disease that attacks dogs of all ages and eats their immune system. Tiny needed to be hydrated but her veins could not take the IV anymore. She wouldn't eat nor drink. I was with her when she took her last breath. For a time, she looked at me and moaned a cry. It pained me seeing her suffer. The sad look in her eyes begged me to ease her pain away. I wanted to help her but I can't. She was too small for such big pain.

She will be terribly missed.

sugar, spice and everything nice

bet and i came a long way together. and i believe i've learned enough about loving to be able to write this.

my friends would ask: what kept us going? here's a run-through.

1. we are friends, the best
they say any relationship needs a strong foundation. i couldn't agree more. while it is best to start off as friends, it is equally important to remain the best-est of friends along the way. friends keep in touch, most of the time they don't, but they remain friends no matter what and pick up each time where they left off. a good friendship allows each person to get to know each other and eventually love each other without being blinded by mushy mushy feelings. with friends, you can be at your best and worst and still be accepted or not but tolerated. you can be you without being afraid of rejection.
so why need a boyfriend? wait till you read number 2.

2. we kept the fire burning
i thought sparks is an overrated description for falling in love. i was wrong. hehehehe! i feel it too. that sparky-tingly feeling i get whenever we are together. kilig! the sparks wear off though. when it get routinary, wala na appeal.. boring. so think of novel ways that will get you together. me thinks i love the feeling of being loved and adored (by him of course!) and so i make it a point that each day, each passing hour together i make him love me more. hirap maging original but it works. just recently, i cooked for him. which i don't do often or did ever (for 8 years!) because i don't know how to. he said he loved it.. not only because my pochero tasted pro but because i took pains wanting to cook for him. there are other ways too. our text messages are funnier. we spend more time with friends and family. we eat a lot and gain weight a lot. and so on..
everyday, we try to keep the love (and lust, ooopsss!) burning.why settle for a friend?hehehehe!

3. i talk and he listens. he talks, i listen. i talk, he talk, we laugh!
when one needs to talk, the other needs to listen. being able to communicate isn't just about getting your thoughts across but making the other understand just what it is that you think and feel. that is why it's so important that you know your partner very well. it is easier to understand if each knows each other's values and beliefs and make them their own.
i used to be a talker. and bebet? well he takes it all! hehehe! on tough times though, we forget to listen. so we keep silent for a while. until one is ready to talk. and so the cycle goes on.

4.we fight
we fight about a lot of things. mostly about our 'pasts'. or for some things that the other did or hasn't done. we fight. and when we do, i always anticipate how we are going to make up. hehehe! i enjoy the element of surprise. what will i or he say this time? that is why i've always wanted to start the fight. hehehe! hte make-ups get better with each fight.
there are good things about fights you know. for one, the fight may concern your partner's needs and values that you have taken for granted. always take it with a grain of salt. you learn a lot from your little and not so little fights. things that will help you understand and appreciate each other even more.
long ago we got into a word-and-mouth-gyera-patani. sino daw sa amin ang mabait and the reason kung bakit nagtagal kami? ofcourse, ako yun db?! because i'm so understanding and loving and all. but he believes otherwise. kaya each day i try to prove that it's me. and he proves himself too. to this day, we never came to a truce. the fight goes on. but we are happy about it. *winks*


oh well.. these are all cliche. so, is there really a formula for a lasting relationship? nah! to each is his own. what tomorrow brings, i can never know. these things i write are the things that i love about our relationship and what i know about loving.